When Weaning Leads to Emotional Turbulence: What’s Happening and How to Cope

For many women, the decision to wean their child from breastfeeding is a complex and emotional one. After months (or even years) of the breastfeeding journey, it’s normal to feel a mix of emotions as you transition to the next stage. What often comes as a surprise, though, is the wave of mood changes that can accompany the weaning process. In fact, the emotional turmoil of weaning is a common reason many mothers seek therapy, looking for support as they navigate this challenging time. If you’ve been feeling more irritable, sad, or anxious than usual since you began weaning, you’re not alone—and there’s a biological reason for it.

The Hormonal Rollercoaster

Breastfeeding is more than just a method of feeding your baby; it’s a hormonal process that affects your entire body. During breastfeeding, your body produces high levels of oxytocin, often called the “love hormone,” which helps with bonding and has a calming effect. Prolactin, the hormone responsible for milk production, also contributes to a sense of relaxation and emotional well-being.

When you start to wean, your body gradually reduces the production of these hormones. This shift can lead to a significant drop in oxytocin and prolactin levels, which might leave you feeling emotionally off-balance. Imagine going from a steady supply of calming, feel-good hormones to a sudden decrease—it’s no wonder so many women experience mood swings, anxiety, and even depression during this time.

A History of Anxiety or Depression: A More Intense Experience

For women with a history of anxiety or depression, the weaning process can be particularly challenging. Research suggests that individuals who have previously experienced mood disorders may be more sensitive to hormonal fluctuations, making them more vulnerable to mood disturbances during periods of hormonal change, such as weaning.

The reason behind this heightened sensitivity lies in the brain’s response to hormonal shifts. Women with a history of anxiety or depression often have a more reactive stress-response system, meaning that when their hormone levels drop—especially the calming effects of oxytocin and prolactin—their brains might respond more intensely. This can result in exacerbated feelings of anxiety, irritability, or depression during the weaning process.

Furthermore, the hormonal changes can sometimes trigger a recurrence of depressive or anxious symptoms, even if those symptoms had been well-managed during the postpartum period. This makes it particularly important for women with a history of mood disorders to monitor their mental health closely during weaning and seek support if needed.

It’s Not Just You—There’s Science Behind It

Research supports what many moms already know from experience: weaning can be an emotionally challenging time. Weaning can trigger intense emotional and hormonal shifts, especially for women with a history of anxiety or depression. A study from the journal BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth found that breastfeeding cessation often leads to increased anxiety and depression, particularly in those who were already experiencing these symptoms during pregnancy. This highlights the need for extra support during weaning, especially for mothers with preexisting mental health concerns.

Another study in Psychoneuroendocrinology highlighted the role of oxytocin in mood regulation, showing that lower levels of this hormone are linked to increased feelings of stress and anxiety. Given that weaning naturally decreases oxytocin production, it makes sense that you might feel more emotionally vulnerable during this time.

Normalizing the Experience

It’s important to remember that experiencing mood changes during weaning is not a sign of weakness or an indication that something is wrong with you. Your body is undergoing a significant hormonal shift, and it’s normal to feel its effects. Just like the postpartum period, the weaning process is a time of transition, and it’s okay to acknowledge that it can be tough—especially if you have a history of anxiety or depression.

What Can Help?

If you’re struggling with mood changes during weaning, here are a few strategies that might help:

• Gradual Weaning: If possible, consider weaning gradually to give your body time to adjust to the hormonal changes. This can help minimize the intensity of mood swings and emotional discomfort.
• Self-Care: Prioritize self-care practices that promote relaxation and emotional well-being. This might include gentle exercise, mindfulness practices, or simply taking time for yourself each day.
• Support System: Don’t hesitate to lean on your support system during this time. Whether it’s talking to a partner, friend, or therapist, sharing your feelings can make a big difference.
• Professional Help: If your mood changes feel overwhelming or persist for an extended period, it may be helpful to talk to a healthcare provider or therapist who can offer additional support and resources. This is particularly important for those with a history of anxiety or depression.

Final Thoughts

Weaning is a significant milestone in your parenting journey, but it can also bring unexpected challenges. If you’re experiencing mood changes, know that this is a typical response to the hormonal shifts happening in your body—especially if you have a history of mood disorders. By taking care of yourself and seeking support when needed, you can navigate this transition with more ease and find your emotional balance again.